Originally Posted by Mirinae
I'm probably waaaay too sick to get into this debate now (I have a head-cold), so please be patient with me if I don't make any sense.
I believe -- and this is getting off-topic, I know -- that the separation between church and state means that all citizens should be guaranteed the same rights regardless of sex, race, religion, or sexual orientation. Since heterosexual couples are legally able to marry, and since the only reason homosexual couples are not
allowed to marry are religious ones, it cannot be legal to deny homosexual couples the right to marry. (As I, a Canadian, understand the way the American Constitution works.) It doesn't have
to be legal to be spiritual, but why deny someone the paperwork just because your religion doesn't happen to agree with it?
Does that make sense? Can someone who isn't sick (and shares my opinion, or at least understands
) clarify my argument?
I share AND understand your opinion. And I DON'T understand why gay marriage is being made out to be such a big deal. If two people love each other, I don't see why they shouldn't be able to get married. IMO, love should be the only requirement! It doesn't make me any difference if the couple next door is two guys, two girls, or a guy and a girl. I do like the idea of limiting it to two people, though!
My husband and i got married after watching my mom's fiance's family toss her out of his house after he died. He'd made it known that if anything ever happened to him, she was to continue living there, rent free (he owned the land), just paying the bills and taxes. But they gave her three weeks to move out. Treated her like garbage. And sadly, DH and I know that his family would treat me badly as well. His mother would do her best to remove DD from my care (I *neglect* her, MIL's words, by limiting her TV time, not letting her have a lot of sugar and cake, etc) and it would be a big nasty mess that I certainly wouldn't be up to dealing with after losing DH.
Also, if you are not married, the only way you can get in the hospital room is with the family's permission. If I wasn't married to DH and he was seriously ill in the hospital, his family WOULD exclude me from the room, and would not allow me to be a part of any decision making. By getting married, which did nothing to change our relationship, I am now legally allowed to make the decisions concerning my husband and his well-being. It also gives me control of our home if anything happened to him. It's stupid that you have to get married to have these rights, but it's really how it is. I suppose living wills/living trusts can be set up as well, but I feel that marriage is a bit more secure.