weird cat behaviour

I have a problem. My sister and I just recently moved into a new flat. Shortly after moving in, we noticed this cat hanging around us and trying to get into the flat. On the 2 occasions he/she managed to come in, went upstairs and hung outside our bedrooms. One of the times, she/he clamoured up the window to get through a very very small space. We don’t know who owns the cat. Until yesterday, we didn’t feed the cat because we didn’t want to encourage the cat. Today while I was on the patio, he/she hung out around me and wanted me to play with him/her. I tried, but we are not animal people. We gave her/him some tuna and milk today, but it is obvious that this is not the incentive for her/him coming back. For hours, she/he was meowing and clawing up the window and door. We don’t know what to do. We are just not animal people. It's really weird. It's like the cat is driven by something almost supernatural and he/she is very determined. I feel really self conscious writing this, but we are stumped. Please help us out. Thanks.

After reading this, it seemed like we might be over reacting, but the cat is very persistent and goes on for hours and sometimes freak out our guests who are animal people. he/she definely wants to be inside our home and we are trying to be compassionate, but I am freaked out by cats and until recently i couldnt even touch them. Now i can touch a cat. Its just weird to see how desperate the cats seems to want to be in our home, especially since there are other homes he/she can choose from and because he/she is obviously being fed well by someone else. Thanks.

Dear New:

You say you have friends over who are animal people. Have any of them expressed a desire to adopt him or her? This would be the perfect answer, if they are kind, responsible and cat-loving people. Probably (s)he was abandoned by previous occupants, and that is why the frantic behavior. If possible, though, perhaps you and your partner could ask around close by and see if (s)he has someone already; you say (s)he is well fed, so this is probable. When and if you find the caregivers, you could let them know what is going on and see what they have to say. That would be the first thing to do; if no one is found who says (s)he is their cat, then I would see if any of your friends who loves cats want to adopt him or her. Good luck, and I'd love to hear back from you as to how (s)he is doing and what you find out!

and welcome to TCS - nice that you are taking time to find out what to do about your "guest"

Maybe the kitty used to live there before you moved in, you dont mention how long you´ve been there or indeed when the kitty turned up, so maybe thats it. The other thing is if the previous owners of the flat owned the kitty, they could have taken it with them but he has come back to where he used to live. This can happen, cats have been known to walk miles back to a previous home
Do you know the previous owners ? or maybe the estate agent that sold you the place can get in touch with them on your behalf. It would be a shame if the kitty did belong to them !
Well good luck and hopefully the kitty finds his home (somewhere )

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Thank you so much for trying to find out how to help this kitty, rather than just ignoring him/her. I also think it a strong possibility that the kitty may have lived in your flat before and is just trying to get home. Trying to get in touch with the previous occupants sounds like a good idea to me. Good luck.

If you are giving kitty something to eat/drink in the meantime, a dish of plain, clean water will do just fine. Cats find milk plays havoc with their digestive system, that's probably why kitty wasn't too keen on the milk.

Welcome to TCS. It sounds like the cat used to live there and was just trying to return home. Have you tried to find out who the previous tenants were and explain that the cat is trying to come in? They may be frantically trying to find the cat, if it disappeared while they were moving.