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post #31 of 47
Kass, I'm so sorry that things did not work out between Nakita and Phoenix. You made the right decision for both of them, and for you. Keep well, chikk. You're in my thoughts
post #32 of 47
Kass, I'm so sorry. Sooo Sorry. That is such a tough decision to have to make, but in the end, your first responsibility is to Nakita, and if she says "no", "no" it is. Sweet little Phoenix will have no difficulty finding a loving home -- she is such a doll, and such a lovely little person -- so, you at least don't need to worry about her well-being, even though it is heartbreaking to you to let her go. to you, Kass, you're doing the right thing.
post #33 of 47
I am so very sorry. I don't know what to say. Just remember all three of you are in my thoughts and prayers.
post #34 of 47
Just sending you some more hugs. :HUGS::HUGS:
post #35 of 47
Oh Kass, I'm so sorry that things didn't work out for you, Nakita and Phoenix

I'm sure Phoenix will find a wonderful loving home in no time, but I know that won't take the heartbreak away
post #36 of 47
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Originally Posted by jcat View Post
Oh, Kass!!!! I have a really guilty conscience, because: "Been there, done that before", but I was nevertheless envious! A couple of days ago, I found myself wondering how you had managed to take in another cat, because there's a little guy at the shelter I just "have" to have, and my husband was berating me for being away for a whole month, since Jamie seemed bored with just him at home. I was really envious of you, but right now all I feel is empathy, as I've been in your position a couple of times, and I know how heartwrenching it is to have to give up. Some cats are just meant to be "only cats", and Nakita and Jamie seem to fall into that category. I've tried to bring in "second cats" a couple of times (actually, they've decided to move in here), which was probably stupid, because we had a resident cat when we got Jamie, and Jamie wouldn't accept him, not vice-versa. The only other cats that Jamie half-way tolerated were fwan's Teufel and Kaylee (he growled, and was aggressive with us, but didn't attack them), but there were two of them, they were both kittens, and we had strangers in the house at the time (putting in new windows/doors).
Nakita has to be #1, in her mind, and presumably as far as your sense of responsibility is concerned. Dividing your house is an option, but not a good one (it's something we've done).

When i was reading this thread I immedietely thought of Jamie, tricias cat.
T&K are really small compared to Jamie, and i am really thankful that he didnt attack them or us... because that would have been a nasty trip to the vet or to the hospital.
I am so sorry this didnt work out.

I know this is going to sound harsh but it is reality... Maybe once Nikita passes in several years... you are able to furfill your dream with a calico kitty, maybe even two or three that will get along?
post #37 of 47
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Originally Posted by clixpix View Post
You're right in thinking of Nakita's health. In my situation, I can "wait it out" more because it's not affecting JinJin's health. If it had, I would have done what you did. That's our responsibility. It's got to be so hard, though. I know you deeply love Phoenix as well
That's exactly the decision I had to make - could I 'wait it out' a little more? But Nakita made it for me on Thursday night.

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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
Just sending you some more hugs. :HUGS::HUGS:
Thanks so much, I really needed them.
............................

Reality plays a strong hand here as I just recently found out with trying to introduce Phoenix. It breaks your heart in many pieces but you have to do what's right for the whole household - not just for one. I am very confident Phoenix will find the right forever home.....I just wanted MY home to be that one. I know that I made the right decision but that doesn't make it any easier on my heart.

I never knew I could be so lost after just a month - but it's amazing how fast one's life can change. It's going to take some time for everything to feel right again.

If you could still keep thinking and sending some healing vibes Nakita's way I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks so much everyone. Your support is greatly appreciated.
post #38 of 47
I'm sending many healing vibes for Nakita and for you too Kass
post #39 of 47
Poor Nakita >>>>>best vibes>>>>> must have been a really tough time for the little guy.

All that stress finally vented. And poor you must have been a really difficult time, Phoenix is a lovely looking baby and tried real hard to be best buddies. But sometimes things just dont work however in your heart you want them to.
post #40 of 47
Kass, how are you doing today? I know it was a very tough decision for you to make- but know in your heart that you made the right one. You're such a good meowmy. There is nothing you could have done differently...you did everything you could sweetie. I appluad you for being such a wise and loving owner...you knew what was in the best interest of both kitties. I know you wanted Phoenix to have a forever home with you,...i'm soo sorry that didn't work out. However, rest in the fact that she will find a wonderful one with another person who will love her very much also. You are such a good meowmy to little Nakitya...you saw the stress and health issues as well as the other signs and you acted proactively....that was very brave and loving of you! Nakita is such a sweet girl and lucky to have you as her meowmy!!! I'm keeping all 3 of you in my thoughts and prayers!!!! Just remember that everyone here on TCS supports and loves you very much! Keep your chin up!
post #41 of 47
post #42 of 47
Kass,

I'm sorry you had to make this decision. You did what was best in a very hard situation, but that doesn't help the hole left in your heart. Lots of hugs headed out to you.

post #43 of 47
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Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR View Post
Kass, how are you doing today? I know it was a very tough decision for you to make- but know in your heart that you made the right one. You're such a good meowmy. There is nothing you could have done differently...you did everything you could sweetie. I appluad you for being such a wise and loving owner...you knew what was in the best interest of both kitties. I know you wanted Phoenix to have a forever home with you,...i'm soo sorry that didn't work out. However, rest in the fact that she will find a wonderful one with another person who will love her very much also. You are such a good meowmy to little Nakitya...you saw the stress and health issues as well as the other signs and you acted proactively....that was very brave and loving of you! Nakita is such a sweet girl and lucky to have you as her meowmy!!! I'm keeping all 3 of you in my thoughts and prayers!!!! Just remember that everyone here on TCS supports and loves you very much! Keep your chin up!
As hard as it would be, I would've done the same exact thing. Hubby & I even discussed it, if LuckyGirl didn't come around in a few weeks, we would have to give Louie back.... I don't want my "baby" to feel uncomfortable in her own home. I am blessed & thankful everyday that they are getting along well, although she still does karate chop him in the head every now & then. You are a brave, courageous, awesome Meowmy....many people would've just kept the kitten cause she's small & cute & lovable, and you made a huge sacrifice for your love of Nakita. I applaud you.

(keeping all 3 of you in my prayers....)
post #44 of 47
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can only imagine how hard it must be. At one point I was thinking that we might not be able to keep Forest because the addition was really stressing out Harvey, but, fortunately, they worked it out. I'm sure you made the right decision for Nikita, though, and I'm sure Phoenix will find a forever home with a lovely family.
post #45 of 47
Any updates today? I hope you are feeling better about your decision. You are such a brave and wonderful person!!! I definitely applaud you for being so strong and making such a hard decision!
post #46 of 47
I am so sorry you had to make such a hard decision... life just isn't fair sometimes!

I hope everything is going well for you today and I am sending you lots of hugs!!
post #47 of 47
I'm really sorry...sending you lots of hugs.
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