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post #1 of 40
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I never can talk about this with non-cat people, because they just don't believe it, they think it's wishful thinking..but it's just happened to me too many times to just be coincidence.

My childhood kitty, Susie (we had lots of cats but Susie was mine) wasn't even a lapcat - she would sleep at the foot of my bed, snuggled up to my ankles every night, but she didn't get on my lap. She was sweet, but not a lovebug-that just wasnt her. As my mom used to put it, "Susie is her Own Cat". But, in my childhood, when I was having a hard time, if I'd start crying (and it happened more than it should, because my childhood really wasn't the best), Susie would come into my room and hop up on the bed, and headbutt me, and look at me inquisitively, like "What's wrong, mommy?". She'd purr, and rub against me, and settle down next to me for a while...and it always made me feel so much better. She's at the bridge now, but it's one of the things I'll always remember about her.

Fast forward to present day, and I rescue The Wonton from the streets of San Francisco. A few months later, I'm upset about something, and yeah, crying, sitting on my bed. Wonton comes right up to me, and just like Susie, he just seems so curious. But it's not simple curiosity, because if it were, he'd check it out, and then go off to do something else. But no, he head butts me, keeps trying to reach up and headbutt my face, sniffs at the tears on my cheeks, and then crawls into my lap, purring, and settles down. He will get in my lap if I'm at the puter, sitting in a chair, or sitting on the floor, or sitting indian style on the bed, but if I'm just sitting at the edge, he usually never tries to get in my lap - unless I'm crying. And that wasn't an isolated event. If he sees/hears me crying, he will come see if I'm ok, and comfort me, everytime. And you can't tell me it's something else, I just don't believe it, the behaviour is too specific, and not explainable by anything else.

Just another reason I love Wonton So my question is - do any of you have cats who do this? Do you believe that they know you're sad, and are trying to comfort you? I do
post #2 of 40
Not only do they know when I am say, they know when I am in pain. After cracking a rib a few weeks ago I had a little gray heating pad that purred to help me. Both boys have also been known to comfort me after a nighmare as well.

I know for a fact that both boys are a gift.
post #3 of 40
Definitely, they are alaways more loving (or cute/dumb to make me laugh) if I am sick or upset.

Magnum (who is usually quite aloof), if you are upset will come over and sit beside you and gently paw and your head like he is trying to stroke your hair to comfort you - it is sooo cute
post #4 of 40
100% Without question they know. I never was a "cat person" befor tiggy but he has made me see the wonderful thing that a kitty's love is. tiggy knows every one of my emotions and shares them with me. and sometimes test's them but thats another story. and i have found that when you just need to talk a kitty is always there and hears every word. so yes i think they know what you feel and respond and respect your feelings and i also think that we owe it to them to know and respect what they feel just the same . i am proud to say i now know what the love of a cat is and it is wonderful and unconditional .
post #5 of 40
Oh yes they know, Bella has licked my tears that I was shedding for her during her final weeks with me. She was with me years ago when I miscarried and laid right across my stomach, and she was only with me for a month and was 4 months old at the time. And then a few years later when my husband died she was glued to me and when I would cry she would get all in my face. Also, she mourned him too.
Recently in May, just when Bella was diagnosed with cancer, I got a kidney stone, she laid across my stomach on my right side where the stone was. Bella never failed me.
post #6 of 40
Definately - this week has been a rough one, and they've both been unusually lovey - they'll come cuddle with me, give me kisses - something Harley never does.
post #7 of 40
Thread Starter 
awww.. I love all these stories, and I'm really glad to know it's not just me who's experienced this. It's just a special feeling, knowing that this warm purring furball really cares for you and doesn't want you to be sad. A scientist might say I'm anthropomorphizing, but I say - prove to me that they can't sense our emotions, or feel emotions of their own
post #8 of 40
Tavia is a indepentant cat but when I am said she comes and loves on me. She likes her petting when she wants it and thats it. Except when I am sad
post #9 of 40
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Tavia is a indepentant cat but when I am said she comes and loves on me. She likes her petting when she wants it and thats it. Except when I am sad
See that's how Susie was - very indpendant - except when I was sad, then she'd be very sweet and loving, and want to be near me. I really do think they know, and care.
post #10 of 40
All of my furry animals (4 cats, 2 dogs -one at my house, one at Colin's, and 1 bunny) can sense when something is wrong. Whether I'm sad, or sick...they're always there- I love them soo much! I'm soo blessed to have such great furbabies!!
post #11 of 40
I have trouble sleeping and my eldest cat prince who is 17yrs helps me of to sleep every night with his purring it its better then a sleeping pill but all in all cats are tuned to the human body and they know when a cuddle is in order
post #12 of 40
definately.....that's the only time LuckyGirl will really be cuddly with me anymore....
post #13 of 40
When I had to make decisions about Tommie and when I lost Sheba-Ox who never sleeps on the bed slept by my side.
post #14 of 40
Both of my kitties are very sensitive that way, and like to cuddle if I'm upset (and cuddle if they're upset too, or frightened by a thunderstorm). Jacob gets very upset if I'm hurt - I remember I cut myself quite badly once and Jacob just about had a fit, running back and forth to the top of the stairs to look out to see if he could find help and racing back to me again, over and over and talking to me the whole time.
post #15 of 40
Pippin isn't the most loving cats at the best of times but since he's been indoors, he's been exposed to alot more emotions, especially from me... which he tries to "help" mommy with as apposed to when he was independant and would skulk out of the room at the first sign of any crying!

When my partner moved out of my home we were sharing with my mother while we were waiting for our own flat to be ready, I cried for days because I didn't know what to do without him and Pippin was always there licking the drops of tears away!

When we recently moved, I went through "cutting the apron strings" emotions and cried whenever I said goodbye when my mother rang to speak to me and there was Pippin, always by my side with one paw on mommy's leg/arm/shoulder giving me moral support.

Bless him, he's my angel!
post #16 of 40
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Oh yes they know, Bella has licked my tears that I was shedding for her during her final weeks with me. She was with me years ago when I miscarried and laid right across my stomach, and she was only with me for a month and was 4 months old at the time. And then a few years later when my husband died she was glued to me and when I would cry she would get all in my face. Also, she mourned him too.
Recently in May, just when Bella was diagnosed with cancer, I got a kidney stone, she laid across my stomach on my right side where the stone was. Bella never failed me.
Bella.... Definitely and angel in life and now your angel waiting at the RB.
post #17 of 40
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Bella.... Definitely and angel in life and now your angel waiting at the RB.
Oh thank you so much, You're right she was and will always be my Angel
post #18 of 40
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Oh yes they know, Bella has licked my tears that I was shedding for her during her final weeks with me. She was with me years ago when I miscarried and laid right across my stomach, and she was only with me for a month and was 4 months old at the time. And then a few years later when my husband died she was glued to me and when I would cry she would get all in my face. Also, she mourned him too.
Recently in May, just when Bella was diagnosed with cancer, I got a kidney stone, she laid across my stomach on my right side where the stone was. Bella never failed me.
Bless her little heart

When my ex bf and i split i was obviously upset. I just had Rosie at the time and brought her into the bedroom when i went to bed to cry myself to sleep Rosie lay on my ex's pillow beside me but even before my alarm went off the following morning she would wake me up by gently tapping on my cheek as if to say " It's ok mum "
post #19 of 40
Oz is more attentive to my moods; Spike is more attentive to my health. If I'm upset about something, Ozzie will come and snuggle with me, and he's the best hugging cat ever -- there's something about his shape that makes him like a warm, purring teddy bear. And he likes being hugged, actually leans into you, so it makes it that much better. Spike, meanwhile, always comes and snuggles with me when I have a migraine. Oz will eventually join me in bed, but with him it's more like he's thinking "Oh, she's finally figured it out -- we're supposed to sleep all day!" whereas Spike is there because of me. He curls up with me, and follows me to the bathroom when I'm going to be sick, waits anxiously while I'm hugging the toilet, then follows me back to bed. He'll do this the whole day and night, when normally he's an extremely active kitty. I wish I had taken the time to properly crate-train him and get him accustomed to travelling and meeting new people: Spike would have made an excellent therapy cat.
post #20 of 40
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Bless her little heart

When my ex bf and i split i was obviously upset. I just had Rosie at the time and brought her into the bedroom when i went to bed to cry myself to sleep Rosie lay on my ex's pillow beside me but even before my alarm went off the following morning she would wake me up by gently tapping on my cheek as if to say " It's ok mum "
Oh Bless Rosie's sweet little heart
post #21 of 40
8-Bit somehow knows when I am going to go through a depressive episode, so he will do things to make me laugh. Once when I was crying, I had accidentally left my underwear drawer open, he got in and dug around. He found the nicest pair of frilly undies and some how got them stuck on his head. He then walked around the bedroom trying to look very serious with his gray ears sticking out of a lace thong. Even in that sad moment I laughed out loud!
post #22 of 40
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He found the nicest pair of frilly undies and some how got them stuck on his head. He then walked around the bedroom trying to look very serious with his gray ears sticking out of a lace thong. Even in that sad moment I laughed out loud!
I think that one would make anyone laugh in their darkest moments. Typical of Bit
post #23 of 40
My now Bridge kitty, Beamer was very much in tune with me. He would be by my side when I was sick and was my constant companion whenI had such a horrible time with my Ex. That is one of the things that I was going to emphasize in my Bridge post, but I have not been able to post yet. though I love all my cats, Beamer was my first and the most sensitive to my moods.

RIP sweet baby!
post #24 of 40
When I was upset because DH and I were fighting, Rocket came up to me and crawled on me letting me cry into his fur. He is the most loving cat in the world.
Twig tries but he's not very good at helping his meowmy, he does help his daddy though. He bats at his daddy until he picke him up, that usually ends all arguing because the cats hate loud noises. So I guess, Twig AND Rocket help us in their own ways. The girls run away when we fight because they don't like loud noises.
post #25 of 40
They do know. whether I am sad or crying they give lots of love. Kind of to let me know everything will be ok.
post #26 of 40
the old kitty i had anytime i was upset or mad always seemed to some how end up in my lap.

hmm heyu does not seem to care how i am doing,
post #27 of 40
The only cat that doesnt seem to pick up on it when I'm sad is Annie. But it could be because I just got her a little over a month ago. Bagheera always climbs in my lap and cuddles if I am sad. Kitten usualy rubs on me. Lily lays on my chest and purrs and meows at me. So yes they do know IMO when Im sad or upset about something.
post #28 of 40
I love this thread.

Roxie, my little Walmart find, has been the sweetest most concerned cat I have ever known.

Now, she's not the brightests. Not even nearly.

But when I am sad, or my man and i get in a fight, she is RIGHT there, usually with a paw on my lips if she can get it there. lol It makes me smile and she knows that she is in for some hugs.

She will lay right beside me until I am done crying.

There are other times though, where she confuses loud noises coming from mommy as mommy being upset.

Case in point:

I broke out some music the other day. I was an opera major in College and dabbled in Jazz once outside of school. I haven't sang in YEARS. Neither of my cats have ever heard me sing. It's sad really.

Polly sat cowering in the corner staring wide eyed at me the entire time. Roxie on the other hand. Paced in front, behind, to the side of , and ON me the entire time. Mewing, she even jumped on my shoulder and looked in my mouth, VERY concerned as to this noise that was coming out of it.

LOL


BUT, Roxie is the cat that we have to lock out of the bedroom during those, Ahem, Special times between two people in love, ahem. She will NOT leave us alone. It's very disturbing to be in the middle of said act and having a cute innocent kitty in your face pawing your lips!! Or hearing your partner say "Ummm, the cat is sniffing my butt"

LOL

Again. I think she associates mommies loud noises with pain. lol I am surprised she hasn't tried to attack my DBF yet wilst in the throws of passion.

LOL



Sorry, TMI?
post #29 of 40
Yes, they both know when something is wrong and get more cuddly than they usually are and tend to stay closer to me than they usually do.
post #30 of 40
When I'm sad or feeling lonely, Limerick cuddles in my lap and purrs extra loud... really cute!!
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