Not sure if this will help but when I brought my two cats home for the first time, I noticed they were more impressionable when they were really sleepy. Whenever they were looking like they were about to fall asleep, I would sieze the opportunity to manipulate them. :) For instance, I would pet...
You may need to teach your cat that he can enjoy being independent. My Jingle can be very demanding about play time. He would love it I literally spent the entire day doting on and playing with him. My strategy was to determine what a reasonable amount of time for me would be to play with him...