This sounds very similar to my cats...
I had a female (Xena) for 3 years before I introduced a male kitten (Bobby). Xena practically lived under the bed for 3 months. She was fine when she knew he was locked in but she would hide as soon as she heard him. He just wanted to say hello and play...
I got a kitten in january and felt exactly the same - always saying "No" and losing my temper when he didn't behave. I tried the spray bottle, and that just turned into a toy (watering the garden has now become a nightmare if he is loose!). I stopped shouting and tried to be calm about it as...