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Trillcat> So I did my best. Oh, yes, it does hurt. And my best was so inadequate. Yes, running on empty, affecting work, as you say. I couldn't make a further sacrifice on top of everything. I wish I had, though, and it so hurts to feel I've made such a mistake. And yet it was a relief to...

> This may sound awful, but losing my parents did not affect me the way losing Fred did. Doesn't sound awful to me. People aren't automatically rated higher than animals, not even parents. >showed her mercy. You did right by her. I know everyone likes to say I showed her mercy, and by not...

> if she was suffering, Yes. I don't know how much she was suffering. That day, not much. She had had hard episodes, a few days a year, and then it would stop. Medical crises that we got through. Life is suffering. I think I"ve sufered much more than she did, because many times in the...

Thanks lauracatlover, and sorry for your recent loss, neil12345. I had to put my previous cat to sleep with liver failure. He couldn't just live at the vets on an IV. His body was finished, and he went quickly, but it was my first time and it was a terrible shock. My girl was not there...

No, and I won't be looking for one. That is not my path.

> Instead of dwelling on the injustice, instead of being angry and bitter, I'm not dwelling on it. It affects me very frequently, but if I had made it the focus of my life, I'm sure I would be dead by now. This idea that I should let go (you're not the first person who's said it here) kind...

>but you need to move on with the grieving process in to the next stage. I know you said you have tried counselors, but I honestly think you need to see a professional to help you with this. While our members are here to help you talk through your situation, in no way are they a substitute for...

> maybe with a cat in need Yes, I will be happy to help a cat in need. I won't go looking for a pet for me. Thanks for your feeling reply.

> Several years ago we had a member who lost her cat, and like most of us she was devastated, only she was worse. Reading your posts you sound very similar in your grief? Well, I'd like to read that thread. I don't know if it's similar. Mine's more about guilt than just losing. I had to put...

> I just want to add one thing that hasn't been brought up, and that's what if you had taken your 2 months off (I think I read this right) and left her with the caregiver, only to find out that she had stressed so much missing you that she was in agony. I did take the two months to pursue what...

My two male cats in the past would pee on things when they got upset, but I noticed they picked things that would have a strong smell -- laundry, undies, an old packpack. Maybe this guitar case had a smell that challenged or offended the cat and so they took their revenge by marking their...

I'm not grieving her passing. I'm grieving my own pitiful existence. I did a bad thing. Maybe it was okay, but only certainty would have protected me. And I blew it. I can't be bothered to wipe my tears any more. I will just let them burn my skin. Life is torture.

> sometimes when we lose a pet the grief that we feel is not just about the recent loss it can involve feelings from our past and repressed grief over losing other loved ones. Or other feelings. Like basically she was so old and deteriorating, she reminds me of how my mother is right now. But...

An update. Well, it's been 11 months, and I am not over it. I recently sold my house and made a big geographic move, so I was very busy and exhausted and didn't think of her every single day. Now things are settling back to something like normal, and when I finish my work day, the sadness and...

Apparently this starts to happen about 30 or so years into your fillings. The old metal fillings, the dentist told me, come apart from the tooth in places and everything starts to move around. Then your teeth can break or lose pieces when you're eating your normal food. This I found out after...