Michael Ganoe....Thank you for that very rational statement and explanation. I noticed that this was an old thread, but all to often google search pulls up old threads that match my key-wording. It helps when there are responses from professionals in regard to things like this. Even old threads...
Thank you for letting me vent everyone. I sent off the voucher money for the new male, and I did the first round of wormer for tape. Next comes round worm. The clinic will do rabies on the voucher along with the neuter. I'm still not letting him in. But he seems perfectly persistent in staying...
So I think I just need to talk. I am starting to feel like the crazy cat lady....and a little trapped by the situation. I live in town, in a moderate sized Victorian house. I had dreams of interiors designed like in the magazines, and was on my way to those goals.
I love cats. I grew...