Just because she has been spayed doesn’t mean her instincts are not telling her that she needs to push her big kids off her territory so she can care for her next litter. Give it time.
I like the black light idea. Is he on the couch looking out a window when other community cats stress him out? I would check outside to see if a cat is spraying the outside of your house.
I don’t know but I would at this point try CBD treats or ask the vet for a light sedative for him for a couple of weeks or months. Just to get him to realize that he can relax at home.
I would look into and pay a mobile vet to come see him at home (and give him a sedative before the vet visit.)...
Mine gets tissue paper and assorted small toys to play with in his box.plus he gets a seasonal
Cat house scratcher. I change out the box/tub/jumbo bag every month.
if they used to be outside then a catio of an hour outside everyday in a harness is probably your best bet.
Mental stimulation helps so much! If my problem child doesn’t get at least an hour a day outside he is so naughty! He gets into things he shouldn’t & is destructive. If he gets his outside time he is a perfect angel.
I would also try a few of those motion activated things that blow s harmless...
Get a kitten 3 months old that is the same gender as your resident cat. Match the kitten’s activity level to around what your cat was at that age.
my failed pairing was my passive calm cuddle bug ….. then I adopted Dante a extra hyper insecure bully. They were more frenemies then bff. They both...