All-
Thank you so much for your responses. I think the best advice is getting a second opinion; I'll schedule a new appointment with another vet ASAP.
She has had blood work done, came back negative for FIV (and also nothing ese came back positive).
RE: her food intake- we have gotten into...
when we got her from the cat rescue place 3 years ago, she was very shy, almost scared. for 1.5 years, she pretty much hid and came out only for food and litter box, and only when the "coast was clear" and she had her privacy. anyway, we just took it as her being really shy and we accepted...
